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5 Tips for Balance & Harmony in Your Life

Have you ever driven down the road when the sun was shining, the music on the radio was perfect, and all was good?  Remember that feeling of harmony and warmness?  It’s as if you were happy and you did’t know why, but it didn’t even matter.  That’s because you were in the moment of balance and harmony.  It’s a great feeling so here are five tips I’ve put together for you to help you feel balanced in life more often.

1.              Schedule time for yourself. It’s kind of like the whole airplane thing – you need to put on your own oxygen mask before you can help another person put on theirs.  Help yourself help others by making time for you first.

2.              Learn to be flexible.  Having a plan in life is a great way to stay organized and have clarity, but sometimes life events are not set in stone.  If something happens out of the norm and throws you off, remember to breathe, keep your cool, and be okay with change.  Some of the best adventures come from spontaneity.  Being in the moment can be one of the most beautiful feelings in in life.  Check out the links & resources at the end of this article for more about being in the moment.

3.              Prioritize. Take out a piece of paper and pen.  Hand write a top 10 priority list from family, work, fun, to staying positive.  If inner peace is important to you, write it down, make it your number one priority.  Knowing your priorities is helpful in the decision making process.  Often, when facing a decision, it’s easy to get lost and get stressed.  If you are feeling stuck, make your list, and then make your next step based on your true priorities in life.  Also, a quick note that your priority list may change throughout time.

4.              Build a support network. Balance & Harmony are awesome states to be in and having a group that you know you are close to and trust is key.  Even if you have three people in your support network, that can be enough.  Remember that giving is part of taking, and if your group is giving, you will feel balance more often, if you are giving too.  Support networks are great when you are feeling overwhelmed and need help, just like all of us do.

5.              Enjoy quality time with your loved ones.  Yes, you might feel great when you are meeting your life goals, but you will feel even better if you celebrate your friends and family.  Spending quality time with the people in your life brings sincere harmony to your heart.  When spending time with people, remember to listen to them and their needs.  Find out how the other person is feeling in life and find ways to uplift them.  That little tip puts the quality, in quality time.

Remember, the most important person in the world is you, and you enjoy meeting your life goals, spending time with the people closest to you, being true to your own priorities, being okay with change, and making time for you.  Follow these five tips, and feel lighter every day.

Resources

·      Ways to Find Peace

·      The Power of Now

·      The Five Love Languages

 

“The Courage To Change”

Guest Blog from Epsilon Healing Academy

Have you ever wanted to change something in your life and no matter how much you tell yourself and others that you want to change, you stay stuck?  Sometime it feels as though invisible forces work against us.  In a way, that is true.

The fact is –- change is hard.

To begin with, change involves taking action.  In other words, it means adding something else to your (very likely) already full plate.  One’s degree of discomfort with a situation or circumstance is weighed against the time and effort it takes to do something about it.  This often happens on a subconscious level.  For example, you might think you’d like to exercise more but you tell yourself you’re too busy and leave it that, thinking that you will get to it eventually.  But, you don’t stop to dig deeper into the reasons you don’t make your well-being a priority.

We are masters at holding onto old habits, old ways of thinking and doing things.  We convince ourselves that if we are not exactly happy, we’re at least okay.  After all, we’ve survived this long.  The longer we remain entrenched, the harder it is to let go. Read More

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“10 Creative Block Breakers That Actually Work”

You CAN overcome the frustration of feeling blocked.

Published on September 14, 2012 by Susan K. Perry, Ph.D. in Creating in Flow

Doesn’t matter what you call it: writer’s block or creative block or simply “Where is my inspiration when I need it?!” All creative individuals find their work coming less easily at some times than others. That’s when you need strategies, and plenty of them.

There are at least 90 such tips, tools, and techniques in Breakthrough! 90 Proven Strategies to Overcome Creative Block & Spark Your Imagination, edited by Alex Cornell, with a foreword by Erik Spiekermann.

Breakthrough! is a fresh compilation of practical, real world solutions offered by a range of creative individuals, including graphic designers, artists, writers, and photographers. These are people who are employed in jobs where they are required to be creative, regularly (brief bios are in the back of the book).

The insights in this perkily designed, light-hearted, and useful little volume are sometimes amusing, often unexpected. It’s worthy of being read straight through and marked and stickied and personalized by any reader who has ever felt not lazy but gooey in the brain in regards to a particular project.

10 Favorite Block Breakers:

1. Redefine the problem to find it more compelling. Ask yourself something like “What if Winston Churchill was designing this packaging?” That will provide an unfamiliar angle and perhaps a new perspective. (Christian Helms, Graphic Designer)

2. Dirty your canvas. Place an ink-stained handprint on its blankness so you have something to fix. (Deru, Musician)

3. Draw blindly for half a minute. You can’t criticize the results. Give yourself a theme (this works for freewriting, too, and let loose. Without expectation, you can break through to being able to work on your blocked project. (Paul Madonna, Illustrator and Cartoonist)

4. “Look at creative block as growth.” Consider this: “I’m not running out of ideas, just trying to push myself into better ones.” (Mike McQuade, Graphic Designer and Illustrator)

5. Fill your head with your view of the problem, review your notes, then go do something else, something mindless and mundane. ( Daniel Dennett, Professor of Philosophy)

6. Look for patterns in your episodes of creative block. Take notes when it happens and you may notice a trend (maybe it happens mainly on Mondays). (Simon C. Page, Graphic Designer)

7. Choose a better way to conceive of your blocks. For instance, rather than having to root through a blocked drain to achieve flow, consider temperature. “I try to find out what’s hot and start there, even if it may be unrelated to what I need to be working on.” (Michael Erard, Writer and Journalist) [Also see this post about famous poet Philip Levine, who “fires,” rather than flows.]

8. Induce a feeling of panic by giving yourself a deadline and stating your committment to other people. (Ben Barry, Graphic Designer at Facebook) [If the very word “deadline” causes you psychic pain, consider making friends with the concept; see this post.

9. Come up with many solutions, not just one. Urged to list 20 possible next moves, your mind will stop fretting over finding the one perfect one. (Marc Johns, Illustrator)

10. Don’t browbeat yourself when you’re in the necessary in-between times when most creativity gets its start. A lot of thinking time is crucial, and it happens where you can’t see it. (Douglas Rushkoff, Writer)

Los Angeles Therapist & Life Coach | David Vendig | 323-744-0751 | www.DavidVendig.com

“Kindness Moves Mountains”

Published on August 18, 2012 by Marietta McCarty in Life Saving Philosophy

It’s unfortunate that the word “kindness” is plastered on bumper stickers and repeated numbingly on greeting cards. The centrality of giving and receiving kindness in any life well lived often gets overlooked, the concept and the reality diluted and taken for granted.

Burmese Nobel Peace Prize winner Aung San Suu Kyi makes her case for kindness quite clearly for the world to hear in her Nobel Lecture in Oslo, Norway, on June 16: “Of the sweets of adversity, and let me say that they are not numerous, I have found the sweetest, most precious of all, is the lesson I have learnt on the value of kindness. Every kindness I received, small or big, convinced me that there could never be enough of it in our world…. Kindness can change the lives of people.” read more

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